“Your behavior is a choice; it isn’t who you are.”
The turn of the seasons brings us back to Spring in its full glory of life and rebirth after the long, cold winter . The skirts are getting shorter ( well, they are if you had to go to the beautician! ) , fashions change , it comes the inundation of ceremonies that increase all in the same short period in which it is assumed there is enough sun to enjoy it but not too much to curse the celebrated … and the flowers bloom .
Being allergic to pollen and associated I always made sure that on special occasions instead of flowers people send me chocolates , books or other types of gifts . But on the rare circumstances that I received the floral tributes I have always had the curiosity to go to discover the hidden meaning.
Because flowers have a language , and each species has its own specific dictionary .
Most of the people ignore this, and this explains the jumble of inconsistent messages received through bouquets .
Not that I’m an expert , as I have said repeatedly , I try to stay away from anything that could prove fatal in the Spring, but after reading “ The Secret Language of Flowers “ by Vanessa Diffenbaugh, I get something and I think it would be really nice to be able to speak without saying a single word .
I ‘d like to say that I have read this book in a beautiful vivarium, in a greenhouse or in a botanical garden – where I have been once in effect and where I got almost buried among the rhododendrons and camellias . Not exactly an experience that I would repeat ! – But I actually read it at home while I had the flue and I must say it was a great company. The book and the reinvigorating shake( which I highly recommend if – like me -you are always short of vitamins and seemready for a horror film in which you play the part of the zombies ) .
I admit that the choice of a book based on the language of flowers in the flower season is not very original , but the alternative was between this and the leaflet of Telfast, so after all it could be worse .
What immediately struck me of this novel is that it comes in library (or IBS ) with 4 different versions of the cover , each of them with a different flower to choose , each one just as I pointed out , with its own meaning:
<< Roses for the grace and elegance , chamomile to emerge from the difficulties , the gerbera as the joy of unexpected hope and the bougainvillea for the passion>> 
The Victorian language of flowers was used to convey romantic expressions: honeysuckle for devotion, asters for patience, and red roses for love. But for Victoria Jones, it’s been more useful to communicate grief, mistrust, and solitude. After a childhood spent in the foster-care system, she is unable to get close to anybody, and her only connection to the world is through flowers and their meanings. Now eighteen and emancipated from the system, Victoria has nowhere to go and sleeps in a public park, where she plants a small garden of her own. Soon a local florist discovers her talents, and Victoria realizes she has a gift for helping others through the flowers she chooses for them. But a mysterious vendor at the flower market has her questioning what’s been missing in her life, and when she’s forced to confront a painful secret from her past, she must decide whether it’s worth risking everything for a second chance at happiness.
No, it is not a love story . Well, it’s also a love story, but not just romantic, indeed , that is the least interesting part , to me it seemed immediately a mother-daughter story. A complicated relationship already as a rule , it is even more difficult in a story that starts from an abandonment . A mother- daughter relationship between Victoria and Elizabeth , and between Victoria and Hazel .
“I would keep her, and raise her, and love her, even if she had to teach me how to do it.”
It is a novel about the fears and fragilities , on addressing their own demons . The wrong choices , the eternal doubt aboute destiny being already written or not , and then us being forced to repeat the same mistakes in perpetuity , or being able to modify it with our daily choices and then we can change , do better , do more.
It is a book that makes you think a lot on the theme of adoption , how much the bond of blood are worth rather than those that are built beyond a biological relationship.
Yeah , okay , it’s also a love story .
Sold in 27 countries , it was released simultaneously around the world , achieving immediately a critical and commercial success : I would recommend it in May for Mother’s Day , to remind us that in the world there is always someone willing to forgive us each and every sin.